Whichever emotion it is it certainly isn't nice to anyone who receives it. To live in God's Presence constantly means however to remove our rebellious tendencies. Basically, we in general or I in particular are being selfish (ah, another of those words with a similar meaning) and thinking of number one. Surrendering to Gods ways is truly the answer. The Holy Spirit will guide us through life's thought processes showing us what to say in each circumstance, not allowing us/me to become distracted by my/our own plans and aspirations.
Let's look at a few Scriptures which speak about resentment. Colossians 3:13. " Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." Also 1 John 1:9: " If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." Catch our resentments early by praying these prayers. Confess our sins. Jesus will be faithful and just to forgive us.
It becomes more difficult if we allow our resentments to remain and harden our heart. Hebrews 3:12-15: "See to it, brothers and sisters, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. We have come to share in Christ, if indeed we hold our original conviction firmly to the very end.
As has just been said: “Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion.”"
The Grace of God helps us to stay clean. It keeps us from trouble and defining ourselves. Once a judgment has entered us it leads to a decision or conclusion. Established inwardly pronouncements are made against someone else. The sowing of seeds of judgment leads to reaping its fruit. Therefore, (Hebrews 12:14-15:) "Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many." This is a warning and an encouragement. Heed it.
Godly Boundaries need to be established too. These are physical relational and spiritual. Take the physical first. God set boundaries in the land for His people. Genesis 13:15. " All the land that you see I will give to you and your offspring forever." Regarding the Holy of Holies we read:
Leviticus 16:2. " The Lord said to Moses: “Tell your brother Aaron that he is not to come whenever he chooses into the Most Holy Place behind the curtain in front of the atonement cover on the ark, or else he will die. For I will appear in the cloud over the atonement cover."
Take a look at some of the other scriptures relating to relational and spiritual boundaries.
Relational: Matthew 19:19 " Honour your father and mother,’ and ‘love your neighbour as yourself.’”"
Deuteronomy 27:17. " “Cursed is anyone who moves their neighbour’s boundary stone.”
Then all the people shall say, “Amen!”"
Spiritual: Deuteronomy 12:2. " Destroy completely all the places on the high mountains, on the hills and under every spreading tree, where the nations you are dispossessing worship their gods."
Numbers 34:1-2. "The Lord said to Moses, “Command the Israelites and say to them: ‘When you enter Canaan, the land that will be allotted to you as an inheritance is to have these boundaries:" These two relate to the spirit realm and to one boundary reflecting another.
Set for yourself, therefore, personal boundaries, strong ones which will stop us/ourselves from breaking them. We also need to work out why it's difficult to set boundaries. Godly boundaries enable us to take responsibility, practice skills relating to them and minister effectively within our local church as well as situations and environments we find ourselves in when away from it.
Luke 16:13. " “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.”" Amen.